I’m going to build this post up soon (frankly, my attention has been at O* M* F***ing G**), but if you want to automatically mirror someone in ALL forms (recommended only for SOME of the time), then try this; ask:
“How (best) to [person’s name]?”
For example, suppose your name is Stevo and I want to model the fact that you relax your facial expression as you hold your hand up while breathing in a low and slow fashion. The first approach that an NLP-er or sales professional might take to connect with you is to consciously relax his facial expression while holding his hand up at times as he breathes in a low and slow fashion (typically doing each of these one at a time). OR, instead of modeling you consciously, he can choose the route that I accidentally discovered with my ex-friend Paul Rothchild: Make the person in to a process & convert it into a question, evaluation, mind-probe, whatever you want to call it… because your Unconscious Mind-Body does all the work for you.
Do determine the strength of this argument, I’ve done this a dozen times at least before I came to the conclusion that this was gold. Though it’s not always recommended, I simply recommend it if you need some starter wheels to really “rocket boost” your rapport skills.
Let me know if this helps! This was one of the best lessons that I’ve ever learned 🙂
Loving the NLP stuff is just about the single most important step you can take when first starting a journey on personal development. But loving NLP stuff comes best when a routine is–advertently or inadvertently–done on you in a seminal, flavorful manner that you enjoy. When you get some dramatic change in your life via a fun process such as a parts integration, you’ll become almost addicted to NLP (if only for a short time, anyway). And if you’ll get that short burst of addiction from loving NLP, even for a short period of time, your life will transform just enough for you to evolve to the next level.
Just know that when you get to the next level, you’ll need to add in (applied) knowledge from more than just NLP (i.e. the rest of psychology and neurology).